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I am a relationship trainer, blogger, and author. My blog uses humor in marriage cartoons and practical, real-life examples to navigate through some of the challenges inherent in every long-term relationship. Since 2002 I have helped transform hundreds of relationships, including my own. And I can help yours, too. Read more here.

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Difficult relationships cartoon

Connectivity versus Connection

Technology has indubitably changed how humans interact. In my classes people, young and old, talk about feeling isolated even though they use Facebook and their cell phones for many hours per day.

Human connectivity and connection are miles apart in how they feel. It’s ironic that the more connectivity we have via the internet, the less connection actually exists. Connectivity can lead to disconnection if you end up spending more time in cyberspace than you do in real physical space with other humans.

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Arguments and Triggers

What are emotional triggers that set off arguments? If your partner’s behavior or a statement that he or she makes remind you of something from your past that you haven’t resolved, you’ll get upset. You’ll react instead of respond.

Loving For Keeps marriage cartoon – how to save a relationship: generosity

Does a Beautiful Partner Increase or Decrease Your Odds of Having a Successful Relationship?

What makes your partner attractive to you? Is it really his or her physical beauty? The media keep telling us that attraction is about being young, thin, in good shape, etc. We think that we have to look a certain way in order to be sexy and our partner does, too. But, most of us don’t fit the criteria. Since we don’t meet the beauty requirements, does that mean we can’t have a thriving long-term relationship?

Some Ways To Revolutionize Romance

Relationships, especially long-term ones, always need infusions of out-of-the-ordinary. When my students ask me what they can do, I tell them to use their creative imagination, but sometimes they want some suggestions to jumpstart the process.

Loving For Keeps marriage cartoon – how to save a relationship: you were ignoring me

Is It Important What You Call Your Partner?

What’s in a name? Does it really matter how you refer to the person with whom you’re having sex and creating a life together? In the English language we don’t have any adequate words. They all fall short, even the ubiquitous word partner.

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